Many women are troubled by the fact that their penis does not stand up during sex.

Erectile Dysfunction is a condition in which a man loses his erection or is unable to maintain it for some reason.

Since a man’s erection is essential for penetration during sex, the inability to get an erection seems to be a big problem for couples.

Although we would love to improve the situation, erectile dysfunction is quite a complex problem and there are different treatments depending on the underlying cause.

Therefore, it is important to know not only about ED, but also about the mechanism of why the penis gets an erection, in order to improve your partner’s ED.

The mechanism of an erection itself is very simple: the tissues of the penis become hyperemic.

However, the mechanism that brings about an erection is complex and involves a variety of physical and mental factors.

For example, if you have any kind of physical or mental illness, it may be enough to prevent you from getting an erection.

Nevertheless, erectile dysfunction can be improved by changing lifestyle and exercise habits, as long as the root cause is known.

The understanding and cooperation of women is also essential for this.

In this article, we will thoroughly explain the causes and ways to deal with ED (Erectile Dysfunction), which is troubling couples all over the world.

What is Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a condition in which a man’s penis is unable to achieve or maintain an erection for some reason.

It is true that the risk of ED increases with age, but nowadays, young men in their twenties and thirties are also increasingly suffering from erectile dysfunction.

According to a survey conducted in the UK, one in four men under the age of 40 are suffering from erectile dysfunction and are seeking treatment.

Most men will struggle with ED at some point in their lives. Your partner can take comfort in the fact that plenty of other men have been in the exact same position, and it’s very much a treatable issue. It’s true that ED is more common in older men. It’s usually thought that this is because as men age, their blood flow slows, which can be a result of high cholesterol or blood pressure. However, that doesn’t mean that younger men don’t experience ED. In fact, studies have shown that as many as 1 in 4 men seeking treatment for ED are under the age of 40.

How to support your partner with ED

This means that ED is now a serious condition that affects all men.

When a man is experiencing erectile dysfunction, the man himself, as well as the woman, is very concerned.

However, it can be awkward to consult a doctor right away, and if possible, it is convenient to do a self-check for ED at home.

In fact, ED is not a simple disease, and doctors do not recommend self-checking for ED diagnosis. However, for couples who want to know the results quickly and easily, it is not a good idea.

For this reason, the SHIM (Sexual Health Inventory for Men) is a well-known self-check for ED.

SHIM allows you to perform a self-diagnosis very easily, as you only have to answer five questions by choosing from five to six options.

Specific questions include how confident you are about your erection, how hard you can get an erection, and how satisfied you are with your sex life.

After answering all of these questions, calculate the total score of your choices.

If your score is below 21, you may have ED and need to consult a doctor.

The self-diagnosis can be done easily at the following website, so try it out.

Table 1 The Sexual Health Inventory for Men

If your partner shows no signs of erectile dysfunction (ED), that’s great for the couple.

However, as mentioned earlier, the risk of erectile dysfunction increases with age, and changes in physical or mental condition can cause a sudden onset of ED.

If a woman’s partner knows about ED, it is easier for a man to feel reassured than if she does not.

Therefore, it is important to know more about the following three aspects of erectile dysfunction.

  • How erections work
  • Causes of erectile dysfunction
  • ED to specific targets

In order to deepen your knowledge about the causes of erectile dysfunction and how to prevent it, you need to know what erection is in the first place.

This is because the more you know about the mechanism of erection, the easier it will be to understand the causes of erectile dysfunction.

Also, unfortunately, it is possible to have ED only with a specific target, i.e., your current girlfriend or wife, so the cooperation of women is also essential to improve ED in men. Let’s take a closer look at the important points regarding the above three items.

How an erection works

Have you ever wondered how an erection works in the first place?

When a man’s penis is sexually aroused or stimulated, it gets bigger and bigger, right?

An erection is a phenomenon in which the penis becomes thicker, longer, and harder.

The reason why the penis gets an erection is to enable sexual intercourse.

When the penis is in its normal state, it is soft and small, and naturally cannot be inserted into the vagina.

When the penis becomes large and hard and thrusts forward, it can be inserted into the vagina for sexual intercourse.

An erection occurs when the penis becomes bloodshot.

The penis is composed of a tissue called the corpus cavernosum, which absorbs water well and expands.

When the penis is sexually stimulated or excited, blood flows into the penis and the corpus cavernosum tissue expands, resulting in an erection.

Looking at this point alone, an erection may seem like a simple mechanism.

However, the mechanism that allows blood to flow into the penis is complex, and in many cases, problems arise here, resulting in erectile dysfunction.

In fact, the penis is not free to get an erection at any time.

During normal times, the blood vessels and muscles leading to the penis are constricted, so large amounts of blood do not flow into the penis.

However, when the penis is sexually stimulated or mentally aroused, the erection center of the brain reacts and transmits this information from the nerves to the penis.

As a result, a substance called nitric oxide (NO), which causes blood vessels to dilate, is released in large quantities.

Nitric oxide relaxes the arteries and muscles of the penis, making them ready to deliver large amounts of blood.

It is like a gatekeeper opening the door with the key of nitric oxide.

When this happens, more and more blood flows into the corpus cavernosum, and the penis gets bigger and bigger.

However, blood enters through the arteries and leaves through the veins.

As it is, even if you pump a lot of blood in, it will be useless because it will go out the other side.

This is where the last trick comes into play. When the penis is erect to a certain point, the fibers surrounding the corpus cavernosum swell up and squeeze the veins in the penis. It’s like a dam being filled with water.

In other words, if the dam is not strong enough to hold back the water, it will not be able to hold back enough water.

It is thought that the so-called “mid-section”, where the erection is released in the middle of intercourse, is caused by the weakening of the ability to hold the blood in place by squeezing the veins.

In addition, the aforementioned nitric oxide has a dilating effect on blood vessels because it increases the amount of cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP) in the body.

However, the enzyme phosphodiesterase 5 (PDE5), which breaks down cGMP, also exists in abundance in the sponge.

With these points in mind, let’s explore the causes of erectile dysfunction.

Causes of Erectile Dysfunction

We have looked in detail at the mechanism by which an erection occurs.

Now that you have a general idea of how the penis gets an erection, it’s time to figure out what causes men to have erectile dysfunction (ED).

However, erectile dysfunction is a very sensitive issue, especially for men themselves, as it is a matter of “raison d’etre”, so it is not something to be judged lightly.

Let’s look into the following six possible causes, just as a “possibility”.

  • Vascular disease
  • Nerve disease
  • Hormonal disturbances
  • Effects of medication
  • Mental disorders
  • Psychological problems

The above six are thought to be the main causes of erectile dysfunction. However, in each case it is a matter of possibility, so it is difficult for the average person to pinpoint a specific cause.

It is advisable to get an accurate diagnosis from a doctor as much as possible, as ED can be caused by both physical and mental illnesses, the details of which will be discussed later.

However, it is easier to take countermeasures if you know the causes beforehand, so before moving on to the details, let’s first have an overview of each.

It is not uncommon for ED to be caused by a physical disease.

In particular, vascular diseases such as atherosclerosis can significantly worsen blood flow and thus blood flow to the penis.

This makes it difficult to achieve and maintain an erection because not enough blood is flowing to the penis.

The main causes of atherosclerosis are thought to be high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes and smoking habits.

In particular, diabetes can damage the nerves of the penis itself, and its negative effects are immense.

Such dysfunction of the nerves in the penis is also one of the major causes of ED.

Hormonal imbalance can also lead to erectile dysfunction.

The hormone “testosterone” is essential for erection.

Testosterone is a type of male hormone that helps to create masculinity and sexual potency.

This is why the risk of ED increases as you get older.

However, even young men in their 20s and 30s tend to have hormonal imbalances these days.

Other medication, mental illness and psychological problems are sensitive areas, so we will look at them in detail again later.

Some wives only have ED

In fact, erectile dysfunction (ED) may occur not with all women, but only when having sex with certain women.

In particular, men who have been married for a while may develop ED only with their wives, and this is becoming a problem.

This is a type of psychosomatic ED, but it is a special type because it is limited to a specific situation.

The cause of wife-only ED is mainly psychological, and can be thought of as “sex rut” and “partner familialization.

The first cause I would consider is getting stuck in a sex rut. Even couples who truly love each other can’t keep having passionate sex forever.

When you have sex with the same person for a long time, the physical and mental excitement will inevitably not be as high as before.

This is not a matter of either couple’s fault; it is just the nature of human desire.

More than anything, the main problem is that sex has become a pattern, like routine work.

Another second cause of wife-only ED is that as you live with your wife longer, you come to regard her as a family member rather than as a “woman” or a “sex object.

This change is not necessarily a bad thing, but it is not desirable when it comes to sex.

This is because our instinct is not to have sexual desire for our “family”.

As a biological instinct, we are aware that so-called “inbreeding” should be avoided.

By living with a particular woman for a long time, one may develop a deep sense that his wife is a family member and not a sexual object.

In order to get rid of this kind of wife-only ED, it is effective to undergo sex therapy.

However, taking therapy does not solve the problem, so action is always necessary.

Change the way you have sex so that you can enjoy the passionate lovemaking time you used to have.

Introducing new positions and situations, as well as sex toys, can be very effective.

Perhaps these methods of improvement will be recommended in sex therapy as well.

Four types of erectile dysfunction

In the previous section, we briefly looked at the causes of ED, but since there are multiple causes, it may seem confusing and unorganized. For these reasons, erectile dysfunction is commonly divided into four types.

Erectile dysfunction is most commonly associated with psychosomatic factors, but as mentioned above, the function of erection is affected by many factors, so it is important to know about the other types.

Let’s explore the causes of erectile dysfunction by categorizing them into the following four types.

  • Psychogeni
  • Organic
  • Mixed
  • Drug-induced

The causes and remedies for each type are different.

Psychogenic ED is a type of ED caused by mental illness or psychological factors.

Organic ED is a type of erectile dysfunction caused by physical diseases, such as aging, hypertension, obesity, and smoking.

Mixed ED is a combination of psychogenic and organic ED, and is caused by both physical and mental problems.

This is especially true for middle-aged and older men.

There is also drug-induced ED, in which medication for a disease causes erectile dysfunction.


Psychogenic ED is the most common type of erectile dysfunction.

It is not caused by a physical problem, but some psychological condition that adversely affects erectile function.

The psychological condition can be anything from excessive stress or pressure in one’s social life to experiencing trauma related to sexual activity.

In these psychological conditions, sexual stimulation of the genitals and the senses is not well transmitted to the nerves, and the erection center is prevented from producing an erection of the penis.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, there is a very complex mechanism behind an erection.

In particular, the nervous system is extremely important in the process of dilating the blood vessels in the penis through sexual stimulation.

However, if you are in a state of mental tension due to excessive stress or trauma, these functions will not work.

Moreover, if he is unable to get an erection more often due to these factors, it may lead to a loss of his confidence as a man.

This can lead to further stress and pressure, which can lead to a vicious cycle that makes the symptoms even worse.

In order to improve psychogenic ED, it is important to remove the stress and pressure that is the root cause of the problem in the first place.

Psychogenic ED is the most common type of erectile dysfunction, but it is also the most difficult to identify and treat.

Of course, psychogenic ED can be improved with a doctor’s diagnosis, counseling, and medication with ED medication.

Especially if the only cause is stress and pressure, ED medication can often improve symptoms by helping you regain your confidence.

However, if there is still no improvement, diagnosis and treatment by a psychiatrist will be necessary.

Especially if you have ED from the moment you meet a man, it means that you already have long-term erectile dysfunction.

In this case, you may have suffered considerable trauma (emotional trauma) from sexual activity in the past, or you may have a background of very serious problems such as sexual abuse.

Therefore, if you have tried several ED remedies and they do not work, be sure to see a medical specialist for a diagnosis.


Organic ED is a type of ED in which there is some abnormality or disorder in the body that causes problems with the ability to get an erection.

There are several types of organic ED, and it can be difficult to classify them accurately.

There are various causes for the organic type, such as problems with blood vessels or blood flow due to lifestyle-related diseases, or nerve damage due to surgery or trauma.

Unfortunately, the latter type of erectile dysfunction with nerve damage is considered to be difficult to improve even with ED medication, since the function of erection itself may have been lost.

It should be noted that nerve damage caused by diabetes may also be difficult to treat, unlike the case of other lifestyle-related diseases.

On the other hand, in most cases of erectile dysfunction caused by lifestyle-related diseases, ED drugs work well.

This is because this type of organic ED is caused by hypertension, hyperlipidemia, or arteriosclerosis due to smoking or excessive alcohol consumption, which worsens blood flow and reduces erectile function.

When arteriosclerosis occurs, blood flow to the lower part of the body may be partially blocked or almost stopped.

Naturally, the blood flow to the penis also worsens, resulting in a significant loss of erection power.

Incidentally, if you have arteriosclerosis, your ability to retain blood in the penis is weakened, making it harder to maintain an erection, and you are also more likely to lose your erection.

ED drugs are effective in dilating blood vessels and improving the flow of blood, as will be explained later.

Therefore, in the case of organic ED caused by lifestyle-related diseases, medication is likely to improve the condition.

However, without treating the lifestyle-related disease itself, there will be no fundamental solution.

Even if ED medication temporarily improves your erectile dysfunction, you will probably experience ED symptoms again in the near future.

Therefore, in order to improve this type of organic ED, it is advisable to improve your lifestyle, including diet and exercise.

To improve your lifestyle, you will need the cooperation of your partner, so we will look at that in more detail later.

Mixed ED

Mixed ED is a type of erectile dysfunction that combines psychogenic and organic factors.

In other words, if you have mental stress, arteriosclerosis and nerve damage, you have mixed ED.

In fact, when you think about the current situation surrounding erectile dysfunction patients, it is rarely either psychogenic or organic.

Rather, it is thought that mixed ED is more common.

Mixed ED is quite complex, and the cause is difficult to pinpoint.

Mixed ED is more likely to be caused by having high blood pressure, diabetes, or liver dysfunction, which may lead to having psychogenic ED.

The stress of worrying about physical ailments can worsen your mental state and cause psychogenic ED.

However, chronic illnesses do not necessarily lead to erectile dysfunction.

In this case, taking ED medication can improve your erection, restore your confidence, and possibly eliminate psychogenic ED.

After that, if you improve your lifestyle, you can expect a considerable improvement.

However, if the cause of psychogenic ED is complicated, it may be difficult to improve it with medication alone, because even if the ED medication improves the organic erectile dysfunction, the psychogenic ED will remain.

As mentioned earlier in the section on psychogenic erectile dysfunction, mixed ED may also require psychiatric diagnosis and counseling in some cases.

Because of the complexity of mixed ED, it is better to see a doctor as soon as possible if the basic remedies that I will introduce later do not work.

Drug-induced ED

Drug-induced ED is a type of ED in which the erectile function is interfered with by medication to improve physical or mental illness.

There are three types of drug-induced ED, depending on the symptoms.

There are three types of ED symptoms: erectile dysfunction, loss of libido, and ejaculation problems.

Medication-induced loss of libido and ejaculation problems are actually quite common.

For example, when you have a cold, your libido decreases, which is of course due to your deteriorating physical condition and loss of energy, but it is also due to the effects of cold medication.

I won’t go into details, but the antipyretic and analgesic drugs contained in cold medicines affect the central nervous system, which in turn affects the erectile and ejaculatory centers.

This can lead to temporary erectile dysfunction and problems with ejaculation timing such as premature or delayed ejaculation.

Antihypertensive drugs, vasodilators, and hyperlipidemic drugs used in the treatment of hypertension affect the circulatory system, which can affect blood flow and reduce erectile function.

Of these drugs, antidepressants and psychotropic drugs may have the greatest impact.

People with mental illnesses such as depression are considered to be more likely to have erectile dysfunction.

This is because depressed patients fit into all of the four types mentioned in this article.

Among them, those taking SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) are at a particularly high risk of developing erectile dysfunction.

SSRIs act on the central nervous system to increase a neurotransmitter called serotonin, which inhibits the action of dopamine, which is essential for sexual urges and orgasm.

In addition, some SSRIs, such as Paxil, also inhibit ejaculation.

This means that people who take SSRIs may have both erectile dysfunction and ejaculation problems.

However, this does not mean that you should stop taking SSRIs or other antidepressants at your own discretion, because you risk a rapid deterioration of your mental state.

Since ED caused by antidepressants is a known issue, it is quite possible to talk to your doctor and ask him/her to change the type of medication if it is deemed to affect your QOL (quality of life).

However, depending on the symptoms of the mental illness, it may not be possible to change the medication.

In that case, you may need to consider taking a “PDE5 inhibitor” such as Viagra, as described below.

However, it is important to consult with your psychiatrist because some psychotropic drugs you are taking may not be compatible with PDE5.

In any case, the first priority is to treat the root cause of ED caused by mental disorders, so it is important to restore the mental state first.

Erectile dysfunction can be improved with the right treatment

We have looked in detail at the causes of all four types of erectile dysfunction, but it may have become very complicated and confusing.

In fact, erectile dysfunction is often caused by a combination of factors, and it is often difficult to pinpoint a definite cause.

For this reason, erectile dysfunction is not something that can be cured by trying to do something about it.

That is why the following five basic remedies can often be very effective.

  • Partner’s cooperation
  • Aim to improve blood flow.
  • Eliminate lack of exercise.
  • Improve nutritional balance.
  • Medication under the supervision of a doctor

Although the root cause of erectile dysfunction itself is complex, what you need to do to eliminate or improve ED is surprisingly simple.

In other words, if you improve blood flow and make it easier for blood vessels to flow to the penis, erectile dysfunction will naturally improve.

To do this, you need to review your exercise and dietary habits, and it is essential that your partner understands and improves these habits.

By improving your lifestyle, there is a good chance that you can reduce the symptoms of erectile dysfunction.

However, if you are still unable to improve, you will still need to see a doctor.

Improving erectile dysfunction requires the cooperation of a partner

Erectile dysfunction cannot be successfully treated by one person alone.

This is because if both couples don’t deal with ED, the relationship itself may be ruined.

Men having erectile dysfunction can be upsetting for women in many cases.

This is because they believe that women have a strong sexual desire, but they are unable to relieve their desire because the man has ED.

As a result, the couple may become distant from each other.

As mentioned earlier, erectile function is also strongly affected by mental state.

If a couple’s relationship deteriorates and the woman leaves them, it will be a huge shock to the man, and the stress will make the ED even worse.

However, there is no need to invite such a negative cycle. Remember that erectile dysfunction is not anyone’s fault, it is a disease.

If you communicate well as a couple and share your concerns and worries, you will be able to maintain your emotional bond. If it is difficult for the two of you to do this together, you can try sex therapy or counseling.

It is also necessary for men to understand that sex is not the only way for couples to deepen their love for each other, in order to improve ED.

This point is extremely important and will be explained again later, but sex is not only about inserting your penis, but the act of kissing, embracing and oral sex is also a great sexual act.

If you use a sex toy on him instead of a penis, it will be enough to satisfy a woman’s sexual desire.

In this way, by using various devices, the couple should be able to overcome the problem together.

Improving blood flow is key

Once a couple has decided to deal with his ED together, they can actually take steps to improve the symptoms of ED.

The most important factor in improving the symptoms is the state of blood flow.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, a lot of blood needs to flow into the penis in order for the penis to get an erection.

However, if the blood is sluggish or the blood pressure is unstable due to arteriosclerosis or high blood pressure caused by lifestyle-related diseases, the blood flow will be poor.

When blood flow deteriorates, naturally not enough blood will flow to the penis, making it difficult to get an erection.

In other words, in order to regain your erection, it is of utmost importance to restore the health of your blood vessels.

When the blood vessels are healthy, the blood flow will improve, and the symptoms of erectile dysfunction will also improve.

However, if the nerves in the penis itself are damaged due to injury, surgery, or severe diabetes, improving blood flow may not improve ED.

However, such a serious condition is rare, so it is very worthwhile to try to improve blood flow anyway.

The key to improving blood flow is to eliminate lack of exercise and improve your diet.

Eliminate lack of exercise

Lack of exercise is a major cause of aging blood vessels, which can worsen ED.

Lack of exercise is not only bad for your penis, but more importantly, it is a risk factor that can have an enormous negative impact on your health.

The negative effects of lack of exercise are first seen in the body tissues, where body fat increases and muscle mass decreases.

This leads to obesity, which in turn can lead to serious diseases such as hypertension, hyperlipidemia, and diabetes.

Even if you don’t have any of these diseases, a lifestyle of inactivity will definitely worsen your blood flow.

This is especially true for modern people, who are less physically active and therefore more prone to lack of exercise.

In order to get rid of the lack of exercise, of course, you need to develop an exercise habit.

Exercise does not have to mean intense sports or training.

Light exercise such as walking or jogging, or aerobic exercise such as aerobic biking or cycling will be enough to get the desired effect.

By the way, it is said that straddling the saddle is bad for your ED, but in reality, you don’t need to worry about it so much.

In fact, the benefits of cycling are far greater than the disadvantages.

Also, lower body training like squats is very effective because the muscles of the lower body have a great influence on the blood flow to the penis.

However, high-intensity weight training may cause physical injury, so weight training without weights is fine.

Another great advantage of these exercises and workouts is that they can be done together as a couple.

If you are not comfortable suggesting to him how to improve his ED, you can ask him to join you in exercising for health reasons.

Hopefully, he will surprise you with the improvement of his ED before he is even aware of it.

Make sure you have a balanced diet

In order to improve erectile dysfunction, it is necessary to have a well-balanced diet as well as a moderate exercise habit.

This is because by maintaining a good nutritional balance, you can also improve the condition of your blood vessels.

Our body is made up of the food we consume in our daily diet.

It would not be an exaggeration to say that the health of our body is maintained by the food we eat.

The nutrients that modern people are particularly deficient in are minerals such as zinc and magnesium, high-quality proteins and vitamins.

An ideal diet is high in protein and low in fat, and rich in vitamins and minerals.

As for carbohydrates (carbohydrates), too much or too little is not good, so it is best to consume the right amount.

The best way to achieve this is to avoid fatty meats such as beef and pork, and to consume healthy, high-protein foods such as seafood and poultry.

Vitamins are abundant in vegetables and fruits, so be sure to consume them.

Proteins and minerals are found in animal products, but it is important to select foods that do not contain too much fat.

Zinc is a nutrient that is extremely important for male function.

In fact, there are even data showing that when patients with erectile dysfunction were given zinc orally, their symptoms significantly improved.

Since zinc affects the amount of testosterone produced, it can be assumed that the higher the intake of zinc, the stronger the erection.

A daily intake of 20mg to 30mg is fine, but do not overdose.

By the way, too much reduction of fat can disrupt the hormonal balance, so be careful not to eat too much.

Medication under a doctor’s supervision is also effective

The measures I have introduced so far are basically highly effective ways to improve erectile dysfunction.

However, they are not always effective as they are done at your own discretion.

As mentioned above, the causes of erectile dysfunction are often complex, so you may not get the desired effect.

Also, couples who have never dealt with ED before may not know what measures to take.

In such cases, one way to improve the situation is to first get a diagnosis from a doctor, and then undergo treatment under the doctor’s supervision.

Many people think of Viagra when they think of ED medication.

Viagra is certainly the most famous ED drug, but there are actually other drugs available.

There are three mainstream ED drugs: sildenafil citrate (Viagra), vardenafil hydrochloride (Levitra), and tadalafil (Cialis).

Of these, Viagra is the oldest and therefore has been proven effective all over the world, but it does have some side effects compared to generic drugs.

Nevertheless, all ED drugs are highly effective and have no serious side effects.

However, if you have a cardiovascular disease such as myocardial infarction or angina pectoris and are taking nitric oxide donors such as “nitroglycerin”, you cannot use ED drugs such as Viagra.

This is because Viagra is an accidental byproduct of the development of a prophylactic drug to replace nitroglycerin.

The combination of Viagra and nitroglycerin can cause a sudden drop in blood pressure, which can have serious side effects.

Also, if you have severe liver dysfunction, it is difficult to use ED drugs.

When receiving medication from a doctor, be sure to report any pre-existing conditions you may have.

The reason why ED drugs such as Viagra can be used to treat erectile dysfunction is because they are effective as “PDE5 inhibitors”.

As I lightly mentioned at the beginning of this article, when nitric oxide is secreted by sexual stimulation, a vasodilating substance called “cGMP” increases in the body.

However, since it is dangerous for the penis to stay erect forever, there is also “PDE5” in the cells in the penis that inhibits erection.

When PDE5 is inhibited, erections become easier to achieve and last longer, which ultimately improves erectile dysfunction.

How to deal with and prepare for a woman who has a guy with erectile dysfunction

There are many types and causes of erectile dysfunction, but basically, it can be solved by improving your diet and exercise habits, and practicing coping strategies to improve blood flow.

Nevertheless, having a partner with erectile dysfunction can be a huge burden for women.

Therefore, in order for couples to work together to deal with his erectile dysfunction, they should be aware of the following five attitudes.

  • Be careful not to lose confidence in yourself.
  • Don’t put pressure on him.
  • Don’t get frustrated with ED.
  • Do not get frustrated with ED.
  • Be careful not to make it serious.

Erectile dysfunction in men can also affect the mental health of women.

This is because they may feel as if they are the cause of their partner’s inability to get an erection.

You may also feel frustrated with his ED, but you should not let it put pressure on you.

Working with him to improve his lifestyle and trying not to make it a serious atmosphere is also necessary to improve your partner’s ED.

Don’t let it ruin your confidence

When a partner has erectile dysfunction, it can lead to a loss of confidence in the woman herself.

This is because men may feel insecure …… that their inability to get an erection is because they are unattractive or unlovable.

However, it is not the woman’s fault if a man has erectile dysfunction.

Of course, it is not the man’s fault either, but it is mostly a physical and mental problem of the man.

Therefore, it is important to be aware that there is no need for women to lose their confidence.

When a woman loses her confidence, it makes the man feel insecure.

You will be deeply worried that the woman is depressed because of you and that you don’t know what to do …….

This is truly a vicious cycle, and the couple will end up depressed together.

As mentioned earlier, a woman’s understanding and cooperation is essential for a man to get rid of erectile dysfunction.

In order to overcome the problem of erectile dysfunction together as a couple, try not to lose confidence and just face it with a positive attitude.

Don’t put pressure on him

In order to face and improve erectile dysfunction with your partner, it is important that you do not put pressure on him.

If he can’t get an erection, it means that he can’t penetrate and enjoy the pleasure of sex.

This can lead to a feeling of inadequacy and frustration.

However, such anxiety and frustration in women is always felt by men.

So when a man feels pressured, he may become mentally tense and his erectile dysfunction may worsen.

As we’ll see in more detail later, sex is not only about the act of penetration, and affection is not only about sex.

If you feel that he seems to have erectile dysfunction, be careful not to put too much pressure on him.

For example, do not try to force him to get an erection by caressing him with your hands or mouth just because you want him to get an erection and insert it.

Erectile dysfunction is a condition in which the function of erection itself is impaired, so it is unlikely that you will be able to get an erection if you try to force him to stand.

It is important to make sure that you can enjoy sex and affection outside of insertion.

Don’t get frustrated with ED

If he has erectile dysfunction, you may feel stressed and frustrated. Women also have a sex drive, and it is important to release it when it builds up.

However, if he has erectile dysfunction, it will be difficult for him to do so, and he may become frustrated and annoyed.

You may feel frustrated and annoyed when he doesn’t respond at all, even though you are trying your best to make him feel good.

However, even when this happens, don’t sigh and say, “Huh ……” or say something disappointing like, “It’s not working after all ……”.

Erectile dysfunction is not something that can necessarily be remedied through your own efforts; it is a problem that even you cannot help.

He is the one who is frustrated and annoyed the most, so there is no point in women stressing about it.

Instead of getting frustrated with your partner, use that energy to work with him to improve his erectile dysfunction.

Work with him to improve his lifestyle

In order to improve your partner’s erectile dysfunction, it is important to work together with him to improve his lifestyle.

This is because erectile dysfunction often stems from an unbalanced diet and lifestyle, which results in poor blood flow.

That’s why it’s necessary to improve your lifestyle, but if he is the only one doing the hard work, the atmosphere as a couple will not be very good.

It is also reassuring for him to have his girlfriend with him, rather than working hard alone, so that he can see the effects of the improvements.

Couples also share the same lifestyle, so if the man has a bad lifestyle, it may have a negative impact on the woman’s health, or even lead to a serious disease in the future.

The man may also suffer from more malignant diseases in the future, such as myocardial infarction, stroke, diabetes, etc. Making lifestyle changes together as a couple can help reduce future risks.

This is why couples should work together to address the issue of their partner’s erectile dysfunction.

As mentioned earlier, to improve eating habits, it is important to reduce fat, increase protein, and still actively consume minerals such as zinc and magnesium.

To do this, cut back on beef and pork, and increase the intake of poultry, vegetables, and seafood.

Depending on the couple’s preferences, work with him to come up with menus and recipes.

Exercise habits are also extremely important, and this can also be enhanced by going for a jog together as a couple or working out at the gym.

Let’s work together as a couple to overcome erectile dysfunction together.

Don’t make it serious

If he has erectile dysfunction, the atmosphere of the couple will inevitably become serious.

Men of course feel anxious, worried, frustrated, and angry due to ED, and women also feel frustrated and stressed.

However, if such an atmosphere is left untouched, the couple’s mood will become more and more serious.

If the heavy atmosphere becomes unbearable, it can lead to one of the couple looking elsewhere for healing …….

Erectile dysfunction can be remedied in most cases.

Therefore, don’t be in a serious mood, be positive and deal with ED with him.

When he has erectile dysfunction, you may feel frustrated and irritated because you feel like you can’t have sex anymore.

However, the act of penetration in sex is not the only way to deepen love and gain pleasure.

It is possible to deepen your love and bond with each other simply by kissing, embracing, enjoying things together, and talking.

If you want to get pleasure from sex, you can ask him to perform oral sex or use a sex toy, which will give you the same pleasure as regular sex.

Just because he can’t get an erection doesn’t mean he can’t have sex.

Sex doesn’t necessarily have to be done with a penis. For example, using a dildo or penis band (strap-on dildo) can make sex just as enjoyable as penile penetration.

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Since sex toys are always available, you can enjoy them as part of your play even after his ED is cured.

With a little effort, you can enjoy sex even with ED and deepen your love and bond.

Having that kind of emotional connection will enrich not only your sex life, but also the entire life of the couple.

Have more fulfilling sex with your partner.


In this article, I have explained about erectile dysfunction (ED), which is troubling couples all over the world, its causes and how to deal with it.

The male penis is caused by the brain reacting to sexual excitement, causing blood vessels to dilate and blood to flow into the penis.

However, if the function of sending blood to the penis is reduced due to vascular or nerve diseases, psychological factors, mental illness, or side effects of medication for diseases, the erectile function is reduced, resulting in ED.

There are four types of erectile dysfunction: “psychogenic,” “organic,” “mixed,” and “drug-induced,” each with different characteristics and causes.

Psychogenic ED is caused by stress, trauma or mental illness.

Organic ED is caused by vascular or neurological diseases, and mixed ED is a type of erectile dysfunction that consists of both psychogenic and organic causes.

Drug-induced ED is a type of erectile dysfunction caused by medication to treat a physical or mental disorder.

In both cases, the most effective treatment is medication under the guidance of a medical specialist.

However, some symptoms of erectile dysfunction can be alleviated by improving one’s lifestyle and eating habits.

For this, the cooperation of the woman is essential.

Since erectile dysfunction is basically caused by poor blood flow to the penis, eliminating lack of exercise and improving nutritional balance will improve blood flow and improve symptoms.

If the woman works together with the man, the improvement will be more effective than if the man works alone.

If a woman is frustrated or depressed about ED, it can become a vicious cycle. Erectile dysfunction is something that has a high potential for improvement.

You can deepen your love for each other by using sex toys and actively engaging in daily kissing, hugging, and communication during sex.

Let’s work together with him to improve erectile dysfunction in a positive mood.